Sunday, December 5, 2010

#reverb10- It's ok to let go

December 5 – Let Go. What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why? (Author: Alice Bradley)

I tend to be an emotional person and where my heart on my sleeve. I have, in this past year, learned how to let things go. I used to harbor and fret over things that were said or done. So much so that it would eat me up. This past year I have come to realize that s*&^ happens. Sometimes people say things they don't mean. Sometimes I say things I don't mean. Sometimes people hurt others and it's not on purpose. Just because you perceive something, doesn't always mean it's right. I will give you an example. I harbored resentment towards a friend. I thought she purposely hurt my husband and I out of greed. I was angry. I don't hold grudges, but I do hold feelings (I'm not sure if there is a difference, but I will never be rude or mean to a person, I keep my emotions internal). I continued to think this was a slap in the face. Finally, one day I snapped. I questioned her motives, her thoughts, her actions. Turns out I was wrong. I ate crow.

I learned at that moment that just because I was hurting didn't mean I had to stop talking to the person or being friends with them. I cut that person out of my life and I truly missed her. And over something stupid. I have now realized that if I have a problem, I need to address it. And most importantly, let it go.


  1. I'm the opposite, I tend to let things build. I sometimes wonder what would happen if I snapped? In the least, it would maybe clear the air?

    Sometimes it's hard to let things go, I can totally understand where your coming from!

  2. Communication is always key. I try not to let things fester too long without saying something, otherwise, I end up feeling resentful and that's completely toxic for me.

    Letting go is also not a one time thing. It's a daily process. You might think you're over a past hurt and then something can trigger it again. That's when you practice letting go all over again.