So this post may be controversial to some. I'll apologize now. However, it's how I'm feeling and my questions and I should be entitled to my own opinion. So there.
Now, on to the good stuff. So, my hubby is active duty military. He deploys every other year for long periods of time. It's annoying as hell, but absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? Well, lately, I have been thinking about our future. With him deploying so much, it's not a good time for us to have a baby. I want one. We want one. Just not right now. He will either miss the whole entire pregnancy and birth or miss the first year(s) of the baby's life. I don't want him to see things through video. I want him there in person. I know that sounds selfish. I wish I wasn't so selfish, but that's how I am, ugh.
Last night we had a chat and he mentioned freezing his sperm. That way, if he is exposed to something, it won't affect our future offspring. And, if something unbearable happens, I can hopefully keep him with me by bringing a child in this world.
Here's where I have a heart/head moral dilemma. I want that. I think it's a great idea. But I'm terrified. I feel like if we overprepare then we are opening the door for something to happen. I sound nuts I know. I need advice as to whether this is norm to feel this way or if I should just suck it up and let him do what he wants. I'm scared.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
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:( Sorry you have to be in this situation. It is very good to plan ahead though. Kudos to you guys for even talking about it.
ReplyDeleteHey Hon! I just wanted to say, that I think Chad's idea is a wise one. He knows his chemical exposure (for the most part), and if he wants to freeze-that seems like a good idea. Genetic mutations can occur through exposure, and wouldn't it be worse to not prepare (just in case) and not be able to conceive, or have other side effects?
ReplyDeleteSince you know in your head, that doing something like that will be completely unrelated to something else bad happening- I would go for it. Sometimes the heart doesn't understand the logic, but needs to go along with the ride.
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Also- I don't think it's selfish to want your baby to have his/her father in their early life!
ReplyDeletea) i totally don't think you are selfish for wanting to wait until your hubby can stay home before you have kids.
ReplyDeleteb) i think his idea sounds like a good one. it can't hurt to be over-prepared, just in case. and i like to think that if you prepare for something, you are ensuring that that something will never happen. you know, like if you bring your umbrella it won't actually rain. but the second you leave the house without one, it will be pouring when you walk out of work...!